Didn't come close to having a baby but I have a very similar story to share - was a horrible boyfriend and lost the person I loved so much.

It's been a while now but I can't seem to find a way out, I just pretend someday somehow somewhere she'll find the heart to forgive me.

Each day I wake up thinking this is just a period and she'll return.

Internet bro hug fag <3

<3
I took her for granted, and now she's most likely gone.
The pain is unbearable.

The whole "we're done" thing felt surreal.

To this day I can't believe I'm waking up without her. It just doesn't feel right.

God knows I'm willing to burn the fucking world down for another chance, but I blew it so many times before it's not even funny.

Same problem here. Everything just feels fucked. FUBAR. There's no one I'd rather be with, no fucking one, and I only have myself to blame, and that makes the pain just so much worse. Fuck. Balling my eyes out. Emotional pain > Physical pain.

This sounds just too familiar.

I wouldn't even care that much if she fucked up, but I'm the only reason why we had any kind of issues.

Terrible feeling when you have no one else to blame but yourself. Waking up and being conscious that you're the main reason things fell apart.

Fuck man.

Fuck.

I want her back :c

Ah fuck, man. I hope it works out for both of us. I know I'm never ever gonna neglect her again, and I'll do whatever to make her happy if she decides to give me another chance.

LIFE SUCKS, THEN YOU DIE.

you sure she didn't leave you because of your obsession with ponies and pink things

It was much, much worse than that I believe :/

That's a healthy obsession to be quite honest.

if you're a girl maybe...

As long as you don't have doubts about yourself, I don't see what the problem is.

Oh and it's much better that cutting yourself.

first of all: is this the right place to post such things?

You are a human being and you will suffer. Not only some weeks, rather some months or more. Accept this!

Try to be mature and have at least an relation to your ex (and she will be your ex soon!) thats "parental". Dont make it difficult for her; So you can see your child without any trouble.

After you will be cracked up for some months: Be a man and try to find a project thats satisfies you. Dont ask other what it should be. Ask yourself.

GL bro

Hopefully you'll learn from your mistakes and find happiness.

oh man... :(

Honest bro hug. Never take something for granted.

just make a fragmovie

doesn't even have to be a good fragmovie!

arent u plazmaistar ?

play more quake

top priorities(in order):
1.daughter/family
2.work
3.quake

hope this helps :)

Show that this life obstacle isn't hindering you from still achieving things in your own time. It's difficult not to be upset, but be strong and supportive to her and your daughter and I'm sure you'll find a way to get her back.

Best of luck with it!

lulz, what did you faggots do? can't help shit if you don't fess up

did you bang her sister or mother? tell me and i'll fix it for you, my advice is godly.

players playing teh quake = gf leave u becuz no attention

quake = bad for gf

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unless its something too personal, it would help for us to know what her given reason was for leaving you so that we can give better advice.

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legit

3. Slowly incorporate subtle accusations of her mother so it grows into hatred for her and unconditional trust for you








...man, what has internet done to us

the best thing you can do is move on and be the best father you can be. its easier said than done but heartache from the split will blind you to the only thing that matters which is your child. there is a future where you and your ex can be civil. its a bumpy road with some difficult moments but put the child first and things will work out. try limit future regret by acting in the right way now. you may always have love for her but it can find its right place as care. good luck mate.

I've not cheated on her, never. First of all, I've never felt the need to, as I loved her, and only her, and secondly, I don't think I could go through with it anyway, being a sobby prick that I am.

I neglected her, yes. That is the wrong doing I did. Instead of taking her out to get dinner sometimes, I'd rather she just sat at home with me eating food there.

I was on my pc, doing stuff, not just quake, but other stuff aswell, when I should've spent it with here, thats my wrongdoing. I've taken her for granted. I've not helped her enough around the house, I've helped enough with making food, I've not helped enough with cleaning,. I've not helped enough with a lot of things, thats what I did wrong.

I only have myself to blame, which makes it even harder for me to cope with!

Thanks <3

just described 90% of husbands in the world. i don't see the big deal really. people have gone through worse things and are still together. sounds like boredom kicked in.

Are you sure those things really are the reasons for this (not saying they can't be)? That can all be fixed pretty easily, but it got up to this point. Were there any "warnings" before this happened?

You know you can change. Tell her how you feel about her. You can promise her the world, but she has to give you a chance first... If you get that chance, don't show yourself on ESR for a year... It could be a change for the better if you two work this out!

Best of luck man.

"I've not helped her enough around the house, I've helped enough with making food, I've not helped enough with cleaning"

umm, this is supposed to be her job okay....... don't be guilty over this

"I was on my pc, doing stuff, not just quake, but other stuff aswell, when I should've spent it with here, thats my wrongdoing."

as long it's work related it's never your wrongdoing :)

"I neglected her, yes. That is the wrong doing I did. Instead of taking her out to get dinner sometimes(???), I'd rather she just sat at home with me eating food there."

again, as long you and your gf have a good communication(b4 the break up) i don't think she could've left because of a shallow reason like not taking her to dinner outside

that stuff falls thru every once in a while.

if you care, just go tell her everything you expressed here and say now your eyes are open and that won't happen again. If she's back, you better show that PC is your #last priority.

WHY do you post it here on ESR, it should be a private matter !

i known once an intelligent guy who was together with a girl from the german police, he testet an other girl out before getting serious with her and got caught ^ ^

well, you can make things worse or let her alone for a while and get together at some other time.

time ist the aswer anyway, there is no right aswer and time will fix the situation.

There is a fix for everything man. If you don't tell me details I can't tell you how to mindrape your bitch.

Did you spend $10 grand on the ponies instead of your wedding or something?
Did you beat her? Fuck her sister? Forget to pick up your kid? etc?

Time doesn't heal this shit - for real, it actually makes it harder to heal, we remember pain and bad experiences more than good ones, you need to overwrite the bad shit you did to her QUICK or she will only remember them and you'll be fucked.

You can't wait around and look like a good dude or father and expect her to love you again, shit only works in movies. Gotta make direct moves on her, or you are done.

GET AT THAT SHIT

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i bench your entire weight with 1 arm son

you'll break your own fucking fist punching into my sick abs

come at me

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you both collectively weigh 200 pounds.

#FREEJAMALZ2013

not another one :l it's like an epidemic!

This is a website dedicated to extremely hard obsession with taking time from work, friends, and family to 1 video game. I'd say we are spot on

hit the gym

bottle

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Well, that went horribly wrong in just 3 posts.

I feel ya bro..

"Break" = her getting some other dick simple as :/ I feel your pain bro but that's just the way shit happens, not many relationships really last these days so keep your chin up and see if you can talk things through with her.

Whatever does happen though do right by your daughter and be a good father, means more than anything! Good luck

quake heals all wounds

just dont think about all those guys she's gonna fuck

Fuckin asshole.

wow dat hurt

cruel but funny as fuck

Almost the same here, for 3,5 years now.
It's just get worse, up until the point of ignorant stagnation, sometimes interrupted by inert melancholy and resignation.
Time heals nothing, just make things a bit blurry over a longer period - except the (good) things which would be better for you to forgot for your sanity's sake.

But try it. Maybe it's not too late. For you.

probably getting lots of cock now from guys who will give her some attention

lo0l. sad, but, true.

"I love them so much" obviously not enough, if you did you'd be a good father and a good husband but as I see it now you're neither? You two probably get what you deserve anyway but that child..... that child is gonna get screwed and it's only your fault. Atleast raise the girl well if you're gonna go separate ways now that you still can fix something.

Just my initial thoughts.

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NO U R FAGGET

He's right.

beat me to it

sorry for your troubles man, hopefully things work out the way you want them to

There must be more to it than that, especially with a kid involved.
Its tricky cos if you don't give her time she'll blame you for it, if you give her too much time, she might shag someone else.

Most women are like monkeys, they won't let go of one branch until they've grabbed onto another.

If<< its really a case of you ignoring her on the PC, tell her you're going sell it and use the money to take them on a holiday.

Tell her that being away from her made you realise she and the kid are far more important and in future, you'll just have a basic laptop which will be kept at all times in the living room to do basic chores.

If you've locked yourself away for hours playing quake in silence, I would imagine it feels pretty worthless for your other half.
Just make sure she does not read this or ask everyone to edit their posts if things work out.

If you wanna be really sneaky, tell her you have been doing freelance work on it for the last few months for peanuts to take them on big holiday, then get the money somehow to do it.

That way, she won't view it as too bad, just make sure you come through with the holiday though or you'll be proper fucked. You didn't want to tell her etc cos its a surprise. Go one further and tell her you have been paying in installments, that way, she'll have to deal with throwing a holiday away too. Sometimes you have to lie to get another chance.

Make her think she is right and you have recognised that she might be doing this as a bluff to show she is not happy, a break can mean just that. Also give her at least a week, if you keep pestering her, she will just think you're doing the most natural thing. Pining, so your claims are not really really, i.e they are driven by despair.

If you show some control, she might take you more seriously.

So she's either bluffing or you simply do not recognise what the real issue is, cos most people I know in relationships are like that after the fun part is over, life is boring for most longterm couples. But as long as you go to bed and wake up and do some stuff inbetween, that's as good as it gets for most.

P.S.
Thought Teen Queen was a girl!

I thought he was gay :o

What makes you think I'm not :(

you did call yourself a "boyfriend"

oh... ok.

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It's not like I had a single partner in my whole life though.

I've seen things.

.

I might be a transsexual lesbian that's into guys who look like girls.

are you?

unsure

I was gonna say this but cba.

Teenqueen=anhedonic=lillie

Aliasing

You want to get her back?

Okay, this is how it goes. You get an orangutan. I'm not talking about a little monkey or some dancing chimp bullshit, I mean a fucking orangutan. Don't ask me how you're gonna get a fucking orangutan, because that's not my problem.
So the orangutan's name is Clyde. This is non-negotiable; all orangutans are named Clyde. I don't know why that is, it's just how the world works. So you and Clyde become man (and ape) about town. You're seen everywhere together, you make the scene. You and friends go out in big groups. You talk loud, you laugh louder. Every time you say something witty, you high-five the orangutan. The town begins to buzz. It gets back to her. "Did you know the guy with the orangutan?", "You used to date the guy with the orangutan?", "Why would you break up with the guy with an orangutan?" Next thing you know, she's calling.

"I'm hoping we can still be friends. Wanna hang out sometime?" "Geez, I dunno: me and Clyde were going to go to a monster truck race tonight (orangutans love monster trucks). In fact, the whole social calendar seems kinda full. I tell you what, I'll tell you what, I'll make a little note (what was your name again?) and maybe I can squeeze you in." "Oh, well, you know my number so dont be a stra--", "Hey, look at the time! I gotta skate, Clyde's making mojitoes."

At this point the upper hand is yours. You can let her twist in the wind, you can draw her back into your life at the pace you decide. Whatever, it's your life. But if you're a smart man? You slowly phase her back in. You're IM-ing. You're talking on facebook. You get invited to family functions. You bring Clyde, he becomes like one of the family. You're one big Brady Bunch.

Then the orangutan fucks her mother.

It's all fun and games til Clyde decides he wants to be the alpha male and pulls your fucking arms off. Then staples them to his own body so he can walk around looking like Goro from MK.

Do orangutans get that violent, iirc chimps are more likely to do that than orangutans

Chimps are, but that's not to say an orangutan couldn't.

I'm sure they can, but it's just far from initial thought,

OP, #11 and #64 are the reason why I visit this site.

hahhahaha fucking master plan :D

posts like these is what makes esr worth reading.

it's copypasta...

Don't ruin the fun!

well you're kinda misleading people here :>

hahahaha no srsly, how old are you ?:DDDDD


no wonder she left you, man up and dont be such a crybaby.


e: in case this is trollthread... great one!

Sometimes I really wonder how old you are... and if you have some sort of mental disability.

according to my mom im 8, but id say she overrates me.


and i only gave him words of wisdom. bad things happen and the only thing you can do about it is to man up, dont act like a pussy and try to find bright sides. and dont share your personal dramas on the gaming sites. thats hilarious as fuck.

I hope one day you'll grow up and start being a bit more open minded.

being open minded has nothing with being mature... thats why probably children are so awesome...

but once you grow up, youll start to realise such things :-)

The end of a relationship is no question of being mature or childish.

well, maybe you should say it to this dutch cunt?

Why? It was directed at you. You can't "just be mature" or "man up" about the end of a relationship, if it really meant something to you.
Just how you can't just "keep your head up" when you're in a depression.

yes, after a break up its better to sit in a dark room and cry all day all night. perfect solution to any problem in you life. sit and cry, instead of being the alpha male.

"Being the alpha male" my ass. What do you know about being the alpha male? Aren't you 16yrs old?

It's not about "sit and cry" as opposed to being the "alpha male". There's a lot going on between the black and white in life, you know?

edit: Okay, apparently you're 27. Your machismo is still bullshit though.

im not 27 :-)

im simply amazed by level of users here. you dont get anything.

alpha male was a freaking hyperbole, nothing more. sadness is understandable, considering the time they have been together. but theres no magic potion that will heal you, so the best you can do in such situation [and tbh any other crap situation] is to try and live as nothing happend.

read: MAN UP

Yeah, because men have to act like nothing happened if they're hurt.
That's how being a male works, right?

You know nothing.

never was in a situation when whining would help you, no matter how much hurt you are.

thats my view on life, words are meaningless only actions matter.

and i dont care what you think about it

Why participate in a discussion then?

because it would be not polite to ignore you, doh?

and i didnt start it.

Yes, you did. lol?

lol, no you did?

http://www.esreality.com/post/2427752/#pid2427337

sorry for posting on a forum, will never happen again :<

Wow, you are dense.

if we follow your lead, we should blame plazma for making the topic.


the one who replies to a comment starts conversation, not author of orginal comment

Sure.

ow, so we came to the moment when you realised how wrong you were, but just to keep face you gonna try and act cool.

adorable <3

No.

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first version wasnt cool enough?

I made a comma instead of a full-stop.

I sure hope so.

bye.

as always too afraid of direct confrontation.

Go away

no u

Teenqueen is syncerrors wife lillie

to me being mature means being open minded, tolerant, compassionate and confident. you can be "a man" and make it in this world by doing work and earning a living for yourself and anyone you support, but without these qualities you are still a child. the fact that you have to put down other people, mock them for their different ways is a sign of insecurity. that' the difference between positive and negative masculinity. positive being that you are confident with who you are without comparing to anyone else, and negative where you constantly have to degrade other people in order to boost your own ego.

i agree with most of the points you made, however for me real sign of adulthood is to know when you can be serious and when not. im not most of time, because situation doesnt require it from me.


now, i was harsh for him, but kick in the ass works better than tickling

so when the mother of your child leaves you, it's time for insults disguised as jokes? you're a kid even by your own "definition"

check word harsh in vocabulary

"however for me real sign of adulthood is to know when you can be serious and when not"

read your reply again

check word harsh in vocabulary

ok. i'm sorry i threatened your precious self-image. now go back to sleep kid :) tomorrow is a bright new day

so you have no vocabulary at your home? thats sad.

:) hope your ego feels better now after mocking my supposed lack of vocabulary. mr masculine alpha male

well, no matter what i say you will anwser im mocking you and stuff, so i dont really see why this has to go on any further.


ill just let you know guys like you make me lose faith in humanity

i feel exactly the same way about you :/

i know it's too much for you to publicly admit your shortcomings, but deep down i'm hoping some of what i said has an effect on you and you start to reflect on your actions in order to become a better person. just so you know, i used to be like you. then i grew up :) i'm hoping the same thing happens to you too.

when we are at our lowest point, we are open to the greatest change

less coelho man

Sad thing is it's not true.

It is to a certain extent. Until it becomes pathological and you end up in depression. And even that can be a way to restart your life completely.

I am sure you will be just fine, mate! Don't give up and good luck!

Had not really the same problem, but nonetheless, went/made out with my gf's bff at that time. That shit cost me like 3 yrs to talk to her again and 5 yrs to meet her in person. So, basically, your situation is probably not as shitty as mine is/was (though I can't be sure ofc). Get your shit together, Tyrone; everything's gonna sort out. Just don't leave this fucked up situation on it's own. You have a fucking child, that stuff should hold you together(held my parents that way, when they were having rly rough time together).
You're not first one, not the last one.

Now is a time to not let your emotions rule you and act in a counter intuitive way. You need to read up and work on this but not in the way you feel you should. You have to get yourself in the position where she misses you enough to at least want to hear what you have got to say in an open way...

Fix the tainted impression you left on her by sending her a quick text tell her she was right to call a break on things and that it has helped you see how it was not right for the three of you. Keep calm resist the temptation to go rambling on, keep your emotions in check and wish her well. Keep it short and sweet and remember to get across that calm feeling even if it kills you. That will at least give you a good starting point and the time and space to think knowing your last communication with her was not an emotional charged mess.

Get reading sites like the one to follow, at first they seem like quick fix rubbish but read between the lines and you will be glad you did, the idea is to get to the point where your calm and collected in your situation and she will feel that and want to hear you

http://ezinearticles.com/?Embrace-the-Break-U...id=1372478

Good Luck

In the meanwhile she has gotten that other dick she wanted so bad, and she got you thinking you have just used your amazing maturity skills to get her back.

suddenly: hitsu

ppl got too used to me, only 3 maggots arguing with me :S

gotta take a break

to be honest, you're kinda obnoxious and most of the time post just for the attention.

no im awesome and it for teh lulz

don't listen to any of the gimps here trying to make you believe it was her fault you neglected her and your CHILD for the fucking computer. instead of being a whiny bitch about life being cruel, try growing up and setting your priorities straight. or don't go for the family guy role. don't expect to suddenly feel better, that shit takes time. a lot of time. but make sure to spend that time working on yourself, and not your elo rating.

working on that child