i personally think if my ex started dating my best mate id be really pissed off. its an unwritten rule of dating, u dont fuck with ur ex's friends. (or am i dreaming that, ive seen jermy kyle enough to know its usually a bad idea)

Why do you care if your mate goes out with someone you used to?

cus its just not right.

Why is it not right?

its like sharing a toothbrush

That's not a very good reason, are you comparing a girl to a toothbrush?

I'm sure you can see why that's a very bad comparison.

Why don't you think through why it's actually a bad thing, or possibly a good thing. Otherwise your only reason for doing something/not doing something is because it's not supposed to be done (Which is no reason).

do you use your best mates every morning and evening? O.o

you mean it's like giving your best friend a toothbrush that you're never going to use again.

and everytime you seen your friend, ud think damn that was the best tooth brush i ever had, why did i give it that idiot.

u fail pretty hard, if u feel that way about ur ex.

i thought we were talking about toothbrushes?

i thought we were talking about analogies?

busted

LOL your analogy just broke down so hard there, last time I checked you can get identical toothbrushes and also nobody really has any feeling attached to specific units which they give away :P

Also, you don't give people away. They choose to cheat or leave you, and you can only do the same.

you was thinking about cleaning her mouth off of bacteria all the way, am I right ?

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well done

ahaha.

blatent primate insecurity showing through innit.

:D

Was hoping he might think why he wouldn't like it to happen :<

probably true i wont disagree

its always a touchy matter, because often the friends become paranoid with one another, and some trust is lost.

Lol @ "unwritten rules"

I'm sure there is some course of action you could take to get into a 3some.

i thought that lol! i gotta catch em both out together! :>

that sounds like you've played to many h games

Nah it happens. One of my ex's cheated on me with my ex.

thats ok if they r both girls :D

you forgot 'and filmed it' :P

never go with your ex's best mate or your best mates ex, always causes problems

That's what all the girls say. Guys never see it as obvious. I guess i'd trust female intelligence in a case like this ;)

do they say it because it is so or is it so because they say it?

both ;)

but we all know girls use the ruls to make things more interesting in their opinion

when the ruls are broken, of course

were really good friends and im pretty sure theres still alot of feels left over between us
yeah right, being "good friends" while still having feelings works great

I would say, 1A and 2a.

If you both have feelings that go further than just having sex a few times it's generally good to pursue those. Just bad luck that it you ex's best friends.

Second one really depends on your ex, cause both answers are quite possible. At the very least I expect that it puts her off just a little.
Most likely you relationship will suffer a bit but no too much.
And the three of you going out togehter will be somewhat awkward from now on anyway.
Just anser this yourself, but it's also important to consider who ended the relationship with your ex. If it was her that's probably better.


also, what's "kinda pulled"?

also, what's "kinda pulled"?

Took a photo of her with his camera phone while she wasn't looking and wanked off over it obv :D

fucking a girl is a good thing, whether or not it's ur exgfbff okey?

you shouldn't really be associating yourself with ur exgf, anyway, unless you're fucking her.

word.

wrong place to ask m8

word.

SMACK HER WITH A DICK, SMACK HER WITH A DICK!

raptorjesus approves.

i'll slap you silly with my big fat black willy

it's threads like these which would have had way2 in his element.

THEY SPINNIN THEY SPINNIN

what about clear heels?

girl you naaaaaaasty!

haha

meatspin? :P

if you didn't care about your ex i'd say fuck fuck fuck fuck don't think fuck fuck but seeing as you do, i don't know what to say :P

Fuck fuckeli fuck fuck.

whats the worst that can happen

she could get really angry and hunt you down, maybe kill you??

nevermind hey

i hate my ex gfs.
i hate the world
i hate pussies
i hate u
i hate liam

y hate Liam?

coz he can

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h8 dird

and 8bit lobsta !

y h8 h8ter

rofl this post is so old i can't even remember writting it

So if you hook up with her, your ex might get angry and not talk to you.. win win situation here? there's a reason she is your ex right

theres also a reason theres still "something" there :-(

you're never going to fuck her again, anyway. even if you didn't fuck her friend, because , to her, you're a friend and not a lover.

well last week she was telling me how wet she was. so ya im confused :)

she just got out of the shower and couldn't find a clean towel

so you would rather keep that "something" which can maybe turn out to something which you've already had, instead of getting some ass?

probably not the best of ideas as its some kinda unwritten girl rule going for somebody's ex - especially if theres still something there


however i would recommend telling your ex that it did happen as when she does find out (and they always do because girl's are retarded) she'll come down of you like a ton of bricks and ruin everything.

basically she'll find out it happened either way, unless she already knows :)

and even if she says that its ok.... it really wont be :P

haha ofcourse not

yes means no
no means no fucking way in hell


ps: approve my picture <3

have done.. i was getting there :P

i thought women could multitask?

thank you tho :¬)

i was ! if drink tea counts :P

ill let you off


this time..

keep in mind this is coming from an arab who will be allowed 4 wives

4 for the weekend

well. your ex is really bitch if she gives a flying fuck about you dating her best friend. i honestly cant see any reason for her to be angry about it.

she's a woman?

ah.... true.

show a pic and maybe we can help?

xD

its ok man.. i fuck everything that has a pussy and my friend does the same

gj man.
Picture of an ugly woman you might wanna fuck, too.

lesbians

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ic7KH1PpbMY

jesus dude, u were making these kind of topics 5 years ago... have you not learned anythng?

haha true

I wanna see all his journal threads collected into some kind of book, maybe 'ESR journals: a chav odyssey'

haha I was thinking the same thing actually but the title you came up with is brilliant. Also should the book keep the textspeak?

Yes (But with translations underneath)

im so publishing this shit in a couple of years (comments included because there always full of win)


im not a chav btw, i hate them tbh!

yes, yes, now move out will you? ;)

thats gonna be the topic of my next thread.

I summon guard for this thread, where are you?

meby he haved no experirienced i theese kind of raltoinchips. :))))))

he always got nice party and nice girls to fuck no problem with ex ;-))))))))))))))

man, i wonder what his secret is. :(

a well known german wording about IQ and sex skills comes to mind. :>

i got problems with my ex, coz i loved her to much :) i dont wanna have same problems again, so better partys and fuck fuck fuck, now i don`t wanna have serious relationship, till ~25 years old :)
do same! :)

every relationship is different and unique, so don`t ask some random PC guys about it.. wont help :))

thx4info

its between the ex and her bff. you should stay out of it lol :)

It could be complicated, I should know because I have had SEX, LOOK I'M GIVING ADVICE BECAUSE I KNOW WHAT I'M TALKING ABOUT, I'M NOT A SHUT-IN WHO'S SEEN ROSS AND RACHAEL ON FRIENDS AND THINKS THEY'RE A GURU ON RELATIONSHIPS.

I'M ALSO NOT JUST POSTING TO LET EVERYBODY KNOW HOW INTERESTING MY LIFE IS BECAUSE I'M SORT OF INVOLVED IN A LOVE TRIANGLE THAT NOBODY EXCEPT FOR ME THINKS/CARES ABOUT.

Not.

I TOO HAVE SEX.



just wanted to let everybody know.

he also looks like a faggot

that's gonna confuse the fuck out of the greenlander

doesn't that hurt?

It's always going to be a tricky situation. A lot of it rest on how the break up between you and your ex went originally.

One of my best mates is dating the ex of one of his friends, and all three of them get along incredibly well together. Depends on the people and the situation.

And I don't think there is anything wrong with it, just so long as there is complete transperacy between all three of you. It's unfair if you start to talk shit about your ex to her best friend, even if you do have some scars. That is whats not allowed as far as I'm concerned.

ps,

go for it ;P

stick it in her pooper

I was waiting for the comment I most agreed with, I read through all of them, and there were a lot of good points... but I think I agree with this one most.

any other sex advice on the interweb is obviously invalid.

No wonder you Africans got so much African Bum Disease.

"but i poop from there"

not today you dont!

close, but not close enough...

i would post the link but i would prbably get BAND!

as long as it has curry

Haha!

barrel roll afterwards or before?

what what in the butt

"not a chav"

lol, only cus i had just watched the new southpark :p

if it's your ex's then bang the hell away. Who cares? If she does, she' a fucking tool. Kill her.
Eat her.

worst journal ever

hnns + hat modeling journal plz

You did the right thing!! If you didnt bang here how pissed off would you be when you are 60 years old and think back and wonder how good she would have fuked. You would be fukin pissed of you didnt bang her! so you did the right thing.
You should bang the ex again too!!!

.

teens are tight

pre-teens are even tighter

post teens are more fun tho

let s all make love in a cave

STICK IT IN

haven't seen u on irc recently, m8. was away for a week, tho. :p

my best mate is currently dating my ex. Truthfully, I don't give 2 shits because my ex and I are best mates as well. And if she happens to like him, so be it.

The only thing that bothers me sorta is when they wanna be intimate in front of me. I just ask them to respect themselves in front of me. They can tear eachothers clothes when i'm not around.

Well back to answering your post. I believe its a good idea, who says you can't be happy? and as for your ex being pissed or okay with it. if she's a rational person, she should be okay with it but sadly most people arent rational about this shit. 50/50 chance tbh

thats the same odds i thought tbh :)

Depends how your ex towards general things. Obviously if she has an open mind aboot general things then thing should be fine. If she doesn't, well mate you're s.o.l =/

sol?

shit outta luck

u learn something new everyday! (thats 2 things for me so far today)

heh =)

Returning to the original topic of sex outside marriage, I want to raise another question that interests me. Why are we so obsessed with monogamous fidelity in the first place? Agony Aunt columns ring with the cries of those who have detected -- or fear -- that their man/woman (who may or may not be married to them) is "cheating on them". "Cheating" really is the word that occurs most readily to these people. The underlying presumption -- that a human being has some kind of property rights over another human being's body -- is unspoken because it is assumed to be obvious. But with what justification?

In one of the most disgusting stories to hit the British newspapers last year, the wife of a well-known television personality, Chris Tarrant, hired a private detective to spy on him. The detective reported evidence of adultery and Tarrant's wife divorced him, in unusually vicious style. But what shocked me was the way public opinion sided with Tarrant's horrible wife. Far from despising, as I do, anybody who would stoop so low as to hire a detective for such a purpose, large numbers of people, including even Mr. Tarrant himself, seemed to think she was fully justified. Far from concluding, as I would, that he was well rid of her, he was covered with contrition and his unfortunate mistress was ejected, covered with odium. The explanation of all these anomalous behavior patterns is the ingrained assumption of the deep rightness and appropriateness of sexual jealousy. It is manifest all the way from Othello to the French "crime passionnel" law, down to the "love rat" language of tabloid newspapers.

From a Darwinian perspective, sexual jealousy is easily understood. Natural selection of our wild ancestors plausibly favored males who guarded their mates for fear of squandering economic resources on other men's children. On the female side, it is harder to make a Darwinian case for the sort of vindictive jealousy displayed by Mrs. Tarrant. No doubt hindsight could do it, but I want to make a different point. Sexual jealousy may in some Darwinian sense accord with nature, but "Nature, Mr. Allnutt, is what we are put in this world to rise above." Just as we rise above nature when we spend time writing a book or a symphony rather than devoting our time to sowing our selfish genes and fighting our rivals, so mightn't we rise above nature when tempted by the vice of sexual jealousy

I, for one, feel drawn to the idea that there is something noble and virtuous in rising above nature in this way. I admit that I have, at times in my life, been jealous, but it is one of the things I now regret. Assuming that such practical matters as sexually transmitted diseases and the paternity of children can be sorted out (and nowadays DNA testing will clinch that for you if you are sufficiently suspicious, which I am not), what, actually, is wrong with loving more than one person? Why should you deny your loved one the pleasure of sexual encounters with others, if he or she is that way inclined? The British writer Julie Burchill is not somebody I usually quote (imagine a sort of intelligent Ann Coulter speaking with a British accent in a voice like Minnie Mouse) but I was struck by one of her remarks. I can't find the exact quote, but it was to the effect that, however much you love your mate (of either sex in the case of the bisexual Burchill) sex with a stranger is almost always more exciting, purely because it is a stranger. An exaggeration, no doubt, but the same grain of truth lurks in Woody Allen's "Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go it's one of the best."

Even sticking to the higher plane of love, is it so very obvious that you can't love more than one person? We seem to manage it with parental love (parents are reproached if they don't at least pretend to love all their children equally), love of books, of food, of wine (love of Chateau Margaux does not preclude love of a fine Hock, and we don't feel unfaithful to the red when we dally with the white), love of composers, poets, holiday beaches, friends . . . why is erotic love the one exception that everybody instantly acknowledges without even thinking about it? Why can a woman not love two men at the same time, in their different ways? And why should the two ? or their wives -- begrudge her this? If we are being Darwinian, it might be easier to make the case the other way, for a man sincerely and deeply loving more than one woman. But I don't want to pursue the details here.

I'm not denying the power of sexual jealousy. It is ubiquitous if not universal. I'm just wondering aloud why we all accept it so readily, without even thinking about it. And why don't we all admire ? as I increasingly do -- those rare free spirits confident enough to rise above jealousy, stop fretting about who is "cheating on" whom, and tell the green-eyed monster to go jump in the lake?

http://richarddawkins.net/article,1926,n,n

tl;dr obv.

you mean (I'm) too dumb; didn't read?

reply button?????????

Had javascript disabled. EGD

proper egd.

still didn't read it, but i think you should have sex asap.

Never gonna

:(((((

because the need of intimacy, one of thing which makes man different from animals
every liberty gotta has its limits, and fighting for the excess of it is as stupid as accepting be enslaved
because man wanna have some soul just for him, if you wanna see things in a demonic way
because doesn't matter how hard you try, people won't see you as your family sees you, for ordinary people you will always remain an ordinary guy, and every person wanna be and feel special; once you lose such a person, it's like she or he went with your 'special' gift
it's not so fuckin simple like hey Liam panda-boy, let's ride Nicky's horses all together

"because man wanna have some soul just for him"

Thats not true, and that line is so old and primal. And with the cultural biases and ideologies (religion being a major player here) that produced and promoted that, can you really trust that that information is scientifically accurate? Of course you can't and of course it isn't scientifically accurate, in fact quite the opposite. So if it isn't apparent already, that line is just as unscientific as is creationism.

Problem is old fashioned society has conditioned the idea of "monogamy is the only way" into our heads so much so that no one really dares to venture outside of that.

An ideal and modern society would really be adopting the following:
If you want to be with one person fine, go right ahead. If you want to be with five... Fine, its no ones business but your own, however you do have a obligation to be responsible by protecting yourself as well as others.

Currently there are A Lot of hypocracies where this issue is concerned, just look at Sarah Palin's daughter.. religous and conservative to the T, however she was sleeping around with guys in her high school and got knocked up (what happened to abstinence until marriage??). Since she got knocked up and word got out they had to get engaged to save face (also to keep McCain's shot at winning still alive). Now they just announced they're seperating and won't be getting married... So let's review:

Bristol Palin came from a religious conservative family who actively promotes abstinence until marriage and full fledged monogamy to your spouse.
She slept around in high school(strike 1), got pregnant by one of her classmates(strike 2), and now will not be marrying the father of her now bastard child(strike 3, you're out.). Did i miss anything?

In Conclusion:
We all have friends and family, people who know us and love us for who we are. What more could we ask for?

"can you really trust that that information is scientifically accurate?"
you wanna put science in your feelings? this is the most retard thing I heard in years

"What more could we ask for?"
I tell you what: you knowing I bang your wife every evening, then one hour later u kiss her and hold her tight , because you don't care, because you are a guy of the new era; and despite what women say, when they look for other men, if u don't care, women think u don't care about them either; whole circle of liberty is just a lie to keep away suckers like u from their close circle of lies

Point is people need someone just for themselfs, to keep their identities, whatever the true -u might be a crap person, from a relative point of view (compared to other) yet it doesn't matter regarding what u need and wipe out ur ass with your scientific arguments. when u started with "by scientific point of view I just read the beginning and the end of your post". trying to look smart, huh? don't try too much. ok. thank u.

Only weak and insecure individuals need to rely on others to give them a sense of identity and self meaning. And now you admit you are one by telling us you didn't even read everything I had written. You just read the beginning and became so angry and threatened you just dismissed the rest and read the end!

And if we can't be the best people we can possibly be on our own, then what are we doing dragging other people down into our lives? Unfortunately because of idiots like you, people are miserable and are dying. Not to mention bringing children into the world that they cannot support themselves. All because they believe they "need" someone to make them better and this is the only way. If people spent more time finding their own answers and getting educated rather than relying on whackjobs like you to tell them whats right and proper we'd all be better off.

You are a closed minded, weak individual. And you still have a few things to learn about people and yourself.

If people spent more time finding their own answers and getting educated rather than relying on whackjobs

you mean like you in the clan5821and kgb spectacle?

Correct.

I watched it and came to my conclusion On My Own. Rather than hopping on board the troll wagon (like most morons do) of the Cess Pool that is ESR.

xD

I mean =))))))))

good luck for any girl who can find a guy that will accept that =) Although what you say is an interesting point of view, from what i've seen its always just been totally fine if the man has more lovers, but as soon as the female even expresses such an interest, she's called a total slut.

I'm never gonna find anyone. virgin & bachelor 4 life.

they do exist though.

A friend of mine told me that her parents pretty much lived an open marriage as in they would have sex with other people anf even live with them from time to time. And her father later told her that he probably took way less advantage of it than her mother.
It did seem to work out for all of them parents and children, though!

attention whore I guess

I also think that you know the answer, but you couldn't resist to tell around. I bet you have asked many of your friends as well, or ppl that you remotely know.

ofcourse i know the answer, i was just curious to what other people think of the situation and what their opinions of it are... (friends ive spoke to have different opinions of the situation than me, thought id ask others)

An old man walks into a church and into a confessional.

"Father, I have sinned, I am 80 and have been married for 50 years. Then I commited aldultery with two 20 year old girls."
"Oh, when was your last confession?"
"I never confessed before, I'm jewish."
"Why are you telling me this then?"
"I'm telling everybody."

:D

ive heard that on a tv show before (family guy maybe?)

don't know heard it from a friend

If you are planning on doing this, dont ever admit/say to your ex that you are / were in any way wrong in doing this.

It isnt your best friends' ex, it's your ex's best friend AKA not your fucking problem

Update - She just found out i snogged her best mate, she seems more upset with her best mate than me!

Ps, She went through my texts while i was in the shower!?! wtf!

Women..

rough

it has been almost a full fucking year !!

ye i got a few texts from her mate in october, (when i snogged her again, sigh) which were still on my phone!

did you tell her the whole truth?

i told her it happend once, i dont think she needs to know it happend on two seperate occasions

lol

Surely you could have anticipated that she would look through your texts?

Most people are nosey and will go through other peoples stuff if given half a chance.

To me that is unthinkable. Only an idiot would do that, my girlfriend could leave her phone, email, whatever infront om me for hours and I would not touch it. Why would I, I trust her. And I trust she wouldn't look through my stuff either.

yeah i agree as well, i think its hugely disrespectful to go through other peoples stuff!!

i don't go thru other people's stuff too, but i also know better not to leave my shit in the open.

I'd say about 35% of people I'd never trust at all, then gradually getting more trustworthy.

Also, I'm the same as you. I wouldn't look at anything but there are a lot of people out there who have no such belief.

You broke article 150 of The Bro Code.

never give mouth to mouth to a ginger-haired woman who has polio ?

Will fuck you up keeping a lie from her in the long run anyway, tell her what you did. If she's cool she'll be ok with it, if she's not cool with you doing something like that then meh, fuck her. You did what you did.

"fuck her" might be a bis ambigious here, don't you think ;P

ambiguous like your sexuality?

yes

I believe Joseph Conrad wants to have a word with you.

'Only the young have such moments. I don't mean the very young. No. The very young have, properly speaking, no moments. It is the privilege of early youth to live in advance of its days in all the beautiful continuity of hope which knows no pauses and no introspection. ' - J. Conrad, The Shadow Line

To answer your question: no, I don't do such thing. You lack character if you do so. Saying love is in the air and can't resist against, is cheap argument. Love is not somewhere around here floating in ther air, it's in man's nature to exagerate things, especially when it has to come about feelings. So, if someone say it's love's fault, well that's a cowardly way to say he/she is a person "nothing upstairs".
I know, the endless search of man for happiness.. you'll tell. My opinion on this, happiness depends on your abilities to see and understand things, and have nothing to do with other persons. Most people rely happiness on other people, they like to give you special names and special attributes, to make u feel special and by this they think they are special too. It's a way to make their image bigger, for their own eyes. To me, it sounds like vicious happiness. This is why breaking up with someone hurts.
Man is just a mess when it's about feelings, if he question it. It always was. Funny thing how in recently man wanna put science in aspects he don't understand.
If man would realise he is an evil creature, all would come to a good explanation. But he won't admit it. What am I trying to say? If from zillions of girls you found the best girl your ex best mate, you suck, and u know it. Dunno why u asking this here. You are not fooling me. Lol

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BIG BUTTS AND I CANNOT LIE

You mean "CANNOT UNDERSTAND"?

IM BRING SEXY FASTRAIL BACK, YOU VQ3 MOTHER FUCKERS DONT KNOW HOW TO ACT

i think you totally lost the rhyme there

So your girlfriend rolls a Honda, playin' workout tapes by Fonda
But Fonda ain't got a motor in the back of her Honda
My anaconda don't want none
Unless you've got buns, hun
You can do side bends or sit-ups,
But please don't lose that butt
....

I don't know but using esr as a moral compass is a GREAT idea!

It depends on how she became your ex I think :P