constant fighting is bullshit.

one of you wont admit they want to move on.

so if it's not you then fire first and walk away. You'll get over it plus u mad OWNED HER B4 SHE OWNED YOU.


my advice walk away from both of them.

Makes ... sense.

I don't know whether it's also of defense mechanism, I create conflict so she doesn't take me for granted. I kinda owned her already by treating her pretty bad and making her spend lots of money on me. Not boasting though, I'm still in love with her without a spine.

your partners are meant to be equals.

without respect there is no love

What about BDSM relationships?

yeah but that is only at set times and it's all agreed before hand.

couples like this must have epic trust.

They don't do all that kinky shit all the time?!

do they?

some do the kinky stuff all the time, or build their whole life around it.

there is at least one future universe where this situation evolved into a threesome

I think in this case it may be an alternate universe

=)

Aw, come on that was funny!

if you constantly fight, there is no room for love, I would think. It's your ego reaching to be complete, so a form of selfishness. True love does not create anxiety or spark a desire to fight, and healing cannot happen while you both are still in that state. It leads to more fighting and eventually the ego will reveal itself.

You have no idea.

"Love triangle" is such an inaccurate phrase when in reality there's only two relationships involved. You need a third side to that triangle, in this case the two girls like each other/fucking.

stop fighting about bullshit maybe.

your the welcomes.

This "other girl"- do you fight with her too?

The first, how long have you been together?

Also, did you know these girls knew each other when you started this whole thing, because if you did, then you brought the fucked-up-ness on yourself. Why, don't know, but you might need to take some time to think about how much of it you caused yourself by your decisions.

We don't fight with the other girl, I guess we're still in the getting to know phase.

I've been together with my current one about half a year.

I feel like shit, I still have strong moral view about cheating, i basically think a lowlife like me doesn't even deserve to live. But then again, I don't want to be pussyless/alone either, and a geek like me usually don't get lot of beautiful women around. But I know, that's not the excuse to justify being an asshole.

WE NEED TO GET tBONE AND DECAY ON THIS ONE IMMEDIATELY!!!

TBONE AND DECAY - ESR EXPERTS ON ALL WEIRD DATING STUFF!!!

Haha, I already added my comment. According to what he wrote though I would probably just dump the old chick, and say I'm fucking the other one. Seems pretty clear cut really.

Getting the hell away from both of them is also an option. Fear the wrath of the psycho ex bitch.

RO-MA RO-MA-MA GA-GA OOOH LA LA
RO-MA RO-MA-MA GA-GA OOOH LA LA

Well, decide if you are fascinated with the new bitch because she is your next true love OR you are fascinated with her because of the shit you are having with the old one - the aspect of contrast. I mean, it is very easy to feel attracted to someone else while you are in a middle of a bad period in a relationship.

Now, figure out which one of these it is. If you decide/find out that you love the old one and it is just a shitty phase then COMMUNICATE, make shit work, find a solution. Otherwise you will be running away with the new one and face the hard task telling her that you still love you ex-bitch several months later. You'll lose the new one and chances getting back with the old one are slim.

If you think that you are better of with the new one BECAUSE you are better of with the new one and it does not come from you shitty phase then go with the new one.

So grab your balls, reason and pick one. And remember - COMMUNICATE.

he may be subconsciously wanting to end it with the old one and screwing the new one is obviously the easiest way out cause she will end up telling on him

i think my ex left me, because of her depression. which sucks, because i truly feel that this illness was the only reason for it.

this is bad, 'cause i'm still not over her. so, if you break up with your girl, make sure to throw it in her face. don't let anything left unsaid.

to quote tbone: psychos love me and they do anal

well, she didn't. :<

Yeah we're on the same boat on that one. It sucks because depression clouds the judgement of a person. It also places u on shitty spot. I mean if she doesn't answer my calls or meet me because of her depression, it still offends me.

...but I can't vent my frustaration because then I am the hostile brute who doesn't understand her delicate situation. If I let her treat me that way, then I am a pushover etc. When you're dating a mental disorderly person it's like this -

You can't have any needs of your own
You have to accept and be ready for everything
You need to make things up if something goes wrong
if sth is wrong, it's her depression without personal accountability

you won't become happy in the situation you described, so tell her about it. if you two can't figure it out and overcome that problem, I guess the conclusion and necessary step is obvious to you. no point in self-sacrificing, it's helpful, a nice trait and sometimes necessary for a while but it won't work/make you happy in the long run.

Well, I wanted to talk, but she didn't come to the meeting. I guess I just dumped her after that with text msg, she hasn't replied though. I met with the new girl and I'm carefully optimistic, I like her more every time I see her. I'm going to dedicate my attention to her from now on.

Yeah I guess it's over.

She told me nasty things in return, and I sent her back a message "Now I see what kind of monster you truly are, and perhaps you deserved all the bad things which happened to you"

Maybe that was bit harsh, taking into account she has been raped etc

ouch O_o yeah that's definitely harsh lol

fuck dude.. you're an asshole :(

Oh cmon, Not a single time during our discourse I resort to name calling and I only approach her in pacific terms -

Basically I told her that I loved her and wanted to meet MULTIPLE times, this is third time she doesn't show up so I text her this

"Your actions speak louder than words, and you not showing up hurts me and shows how much you truly care about me. I don't bother you anymore, but i wish you good on your future life"

I swear to science that's exactly what I said, not sugarcoated

and then she basically runs the entire dictionary of derogatery terms on me on the text message back! and Jesus Christ When I say one bad thing I instantly become the bad guy :/

wtf, are you 14?

yeah

...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sVAOqJsnx-I

still, saying she deserved to get raped is totally way over the line..

With people who have a self-destructive streak it's better to end things calmly and without saying nasty things to them if you genuinely had any feelings for them. If you tell them some mean stuff it will play into their fantasy/delusional world view and give them justification for the way they treated you and keep them in a fucked up place.

They might never snap out of it and realize how good you were to them but at least you won't be contributing to their future agony.

Well yeah I later apologized (surprise, surprise) and offered her the olive branch of peace, I said I'd still like to end as friends or atleast without furthering hostilities. She hasn't responded though.

Agree to be friends, sure, but for now, stay clear, it'll be better for both of you. Give it at least a year.

Don't initiate anything (text, IM, phone calls), or do anything with her on a regular (or semi) basis.

gonna reply some other time. in the meantime i'd recommend you a book, if it wasn't in german. dunno if it got translated into english. Mängelexemplar by Sarah Kuttner
Nice little book about depression and anxiety disorder, but in a humorous way.

So wait a sec...

You'd dicking one that seems to be a complete bitch and you hate everything about her but 'LOOOOOVE HER'

And you've got a hotter mate who you don't fight with that is nicer?


Kick the first one in the ovaries.
Dick the 2nd or turn gay.

how old are you? (serious question/not trolling/etc)

This is the gayest thing ever posted on this website.

You seem to of forgotten a few on my journals..

For example : "Should i get my hair cut.."

Even i think that was gayer than this thread... :D

I think I blocked those from my memory. Still this is gayer than a lukrek journal.

No way, at least this is interesting :)

How is this interesting?

Maladjusted, depressed Finn meets maladjusted, depressed Finn.

Much arguing and hating ensues but they "love" each other.

Well adjusted, non-depressed Finn enters equation and isn't a complete dick to original Finn which causes much confusion because they "love" the maladjusted, depressed Finn.

step 1: shit in her handbag

step 2: dump the bitch

step 3: shag the other one

simples!

Way ahead of you. The new one just sent me a e-mail telling me she wuvs me :) She's such a sweetie pie

well..its going too well too fast, expect her to get hit by a bus or by a car of angry psycho ex

step 1: Make awesome post on some random gaming related site.

step 2: get trolled

step 3: kill ure self.

Simples!